Still doing splits at 57! (In 4 states!) Flexibility is fundamental.
I began thinking and talking about it long before Dove made it “a thing”.
Why would any of us want to ANTI age?
Be AGAINST aging?
I know there are many people who don’t want to age.
THAT is IMPOSSIBLE no matter how hard you try.
Wouldn't you rather age than the alternative?
And by the alternative, I mean death.
Or is “die young, stay pretty”, the preferred option?
I am extremely passionate about aging intelligently.
What do I mean by that?
You can age intelligently by caring for your skin, your mind, your body, your relationships, your career and your health.
We have to get out of the mindset that "aging is a curse".
Live a good life, have fun, take care of yourself, be loving, make a contribution. That is real beauty!
I'm just one of those women who can’t wrap her mind around “anti-aging”.
Believe me, after being in the entertainment industry for 35 years this was a hard mountain to scale.
This is an industry that pushes the idea that the only beauty is young beauty.
Is it Vanity?
All of the above?
We can all spot from a mile away the person who has had so much work done on their face or their body that they don’t look real.
And let’s face it (lol, pun intended), a 70-year-old woman with an extreme facelift still does NOT look 40.
Plus, no 50 year old, who has overdosed on fillers, will ever look 25.
I wholeheartedly support taking care of yourself.
Get facials, Dermabrasion, Dermaplaning, some Botox, muscle stimulation and any of the non-invasive procedures.
Exercise, eat healthy foods - be a health fanatic - but going under the knife, sometimes again and again and again, seems to me to be another addiction.
Is one ever REALLY satisfied after they get on that merry-go-round?
Have we become such an insecure society that we only care about how others see us and that influences how we see ourselves?
My grandfather, on every one of his birthdays, would always say that he would rather be having a birthday than not!
It took me a while to get there and now I feel exactly the same way.
As we age, granted, everything isn’t still in its original place.
We may not have what we had in our teens, twenties or thirties.
BUT if we really think about it most likely we have more.
Some of the most inspirational people I know and observe are not in those age categories.
That is not because I am of a certain age, either, because I have friends in their 20’s to their 80’s.
It's incredible to see beautiful people inside and out who aren’t in their teens, 20’s, 30’s.
When was it decided that only youth was beautiful?
Is it a North American or western phenomenon?
In my teens, twenties, and 30’s I didn’t give aging a second thought.
I was too busy with my career, and in my VERY late 30's having, then raising a child.
Those age groups weren’t getting bombarded with the notion that one tiny wrinkle or a grey hair is a fatality.
We also weren’t inundated with the products on the market to keep us perpetually 25.
When did that happen?
Skin care IS important. Mostly so we don’t get skin cancer, which is a hell of a lot worse than a wrinkle. I have never met anyone who died from a wrinkle.
With age comes wisdom. YES! It's CLICHÉ but it's true.
Maybe wisdom doesn't come to everyone over the age of 40 but those years are life experiences and life experiences teach us.
Then again, I am constantly marveling at the wisdom of my young friends. Natural, innate wisdom that did not come with age but just from within.
Who decided for me that my laugh lines were ugly?
That my silver hair makes me old?
OR the fact that I am not still wafer thin makes me less than?
It certainly wasn’t me.
BUT the pressures I have felt and see my friends experiencing are an uphill battle.
When did we lose our talent, creativity, abilities, and exuberance because we turned the corner of 40 or 50?
I remember I was out one evening in Vancouver, Canada with girlfriends between the ages of 40 and 60.
We were having a great time going dancing, hopping from restaurant to club, to coffee house.
We were laughing and joking and having an AMAZING time.
At one point in the evening, we were all crossing the street, and a group of 20 something women was crossing at the same time.
They started pointing at us, laughing and making jokes about us.
One of my friends turned around and shouted “What are you laughing at? We’re YOU in 20 years!”
Well, that shut them the F up.
If those ladies are LUCKY they will be anything like us in 20 years.
We were a group of attractive, accomplished, talented, vital, vibrant and SEXY woman.
We had life experience.
We were walking, talking, living, breathing, oozing experience.
If anyone needed to be laughing, it was us. At the naivety, the judgment, the arrogance, the ignorance, and stupidity…
But we didn’t because we accepted those young ladies for who they were on their journey right at that moment.
WE are still open to learning from ALL ages.
All this being said I strongly advocate for self-care and self-nurturing.
I believe in eating right, exercising, meditating, being grateful, making a contribution somewhere, going for it, going with the flow and making your mark (whatever that is) at ALL ages.
I am so thrilled to have my older women friends to learn from and to absorb THEIR wisdom.
What I am not thrilled to have is pressure to be someone else’s idea and image of perfection. AT ANY AGE.
So go ahead and use those potions and lotions (cuz soft skin feels GREAT), but don’t lose sight of your beauty inside and out.
Don’t let someone else tell you what aging and beauty is.
That is up to you.
Find your support system and nurture it.
“Smell the roses.”
‘Grab for the gusto.”
“Go for it.”
‘You do you.”
Be YOUR best self.
AND never let someone else define you - at ANY AGE!
My wish for you is long and luscious PRO-aging.
As always, thanks for reading.
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