This is an excerpt from my upcoming book: "Moving Meditation During Incarceration: a Teaching Story and Guide for Juvenile Justice."
Picture you are teaching a one-on-one class with a student. In my case, we were working on breath work and energy work. We started by sitting in chairs facing each other. We had closed our eyes and were just taking some deep breaths - going through a little bit of breath work and relaxation work.
All of a sudden I felt that my student was not there anymore. I opened my eyes and he was standing in the back of the room. I said, "What's up?" And he said, "I gotta fart." I tried to be as cool as possible with that statement. What I mean by that is I tried so hard not to laugh about it. It was funny and endearing and FUNNY! When is anyone so REAL with someone they don't know well; someone they are just beginning to trust?
Mind you, these young men take my class after they have had their dinner and a shower. YOU KNOW that gas will sneak up on you after you eat; especially if you are eating a more institutionalized meal. He said he wanted to be respectful of me and not "stink me out" with the smell. I said that it was perfectly OK and not to be concerned about it at all. Then he said: “Yes, it's a natural bodily function." I was so proud of him to have that attitude. My students can be so real and genuine, that is why I love teaching them. They have been through tough times and still can be honest. (Sometimes VERY honest!)
So he's standing there waving his gym shorts around and actually very discreetly smelling to see if it smelled bad. Can you imagine? All out of respect for me AND so he wasn't holding it in struggling with pain the entire class. Maybe we ALL can take a lesson from that.
Then he just came back to the chair and we finished up the session. It happened to him again at the end of the session, but by then we were completely relaxed about, I smiled and it became a normal occurrence. (A normal occurrence in ALL of my classes.)
I also told him the story about someone I knew who hated when women burped or farted. He said it was very gross and unladylike. My student looked at me with a very quizzical expression and said: "well, that sounds stupid". Isn't there a Forrest Gump expression about just that?
That leads me to the timeless and wise saying from the Shrek movie: "better out than in".
Indeed, "better out than in". Words to live by.
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